Those Darn Hiccups!

As a family, we went to see the movie "Tangled". I asked Ethan if he liked it, and he quickly responded that he didn't.

"Why not?" I asked him.

"Because it made me hiccup!"

More Family Pictures

The Frazier family needed family pictures updated, so we headed to Memory Grove in October.  The colors were spectacular, and we cleaned up pretty well also.  I think they turned out great!

One last picture....Grandma wanted to see us all in our Halloween costumes, so we got pics of that, too.

If you can't tell, Ryan is a game show host.....

With awesome 70's hair....

Yep, he can really work that wig!!

Weekend Wrap Up

I'm sharing my little victories of the weekend with you:

--Finishing up Sub for Santa gifts

--Singing in church without passing out from sheer terror

--Getting all of my end of the year primary stuff completed

--Finally getting around to putting ornaments on my Christmas tree (it has had lights on it for two weeks!)

--Actually finding a gift for my really-hard-to buy-for-person on my list!

--Enduring the round of stomach flu going on in my house (I count this as a victory because I'm praying we are all over it by Christmas)

--And finally, fixing my hair pain free!!

Hey, these may be small victories, but they're victories none the less!

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas week. I'm so thankful for the birth of my Savior and for all he has done for me. Merry Christmas!!!

Fall: An Overview

OK, so I'm slow at posting lately, but there are more important things to do.  Just an update though, I'm recovering from surgery remarkably well and we all are enjoying the Christmas season.  We are trying to spend as much time as a family before Ry's big trial in January.

Since I'm getting so behind on my blogging, I've been forced to do another "overview" post. This time...Autumn, baby! I love this time of year because things get back on schedule, Jackson trips are taken, Fall colors are enjoyed, and anticipation for the holidays increases!! So, here we go...

In October,

-- Ryan caught up with lots of friends at his TWENTIETH HIGH SCHOOL REUNION!! (Man, we are getting old!)

-- we enjoyed our church's General Conference

-- I canned Salsa with my mom

-- we had a blast at Frightmares at Lagoon.  Katie wanted to go through all of the haunted houses, so Ryan took her and the rest of us enjoyed caramel apples, hot chocolate, and rides.

-- we celebrated Braiden's Baptism!!  Yeah!!

-- the girls helped me make these yummy apples for all of my Primary teachers.

-- Grandma Nancy came for a visit!

-- we headed down to Moab with all of my family to enjoy the beautiful weather and scenery.  The hike up to Delicate Arch is always a family favorite.

-- we grew lots of pumpkins, but we also went to Day Farms and picked out some beauties to paint

-- we then painted those pumpkins (yes, we paint instead of carve)

-- we got all dressed up and went around (in the rain) taking candy from our neighbors!

-- we had the whole Frazier side get pictures taken.  I've seen them and I can't wait for my copies!

In November,

--I went in for my second shoulder surgery (I know you are jealous of my great hat and fuzzy socks, and I also know that you are NOT jealous of my beautiful hospital gown!)

-- I began the long process of recovering.  So far...so good.

-- we were very grateful for all of the help we received. Thank you so much!!

-- the kids had a piano recital and did a great job.  This was Braiden's first!!  They all performed a piece they wrote by themselves.

--I began physical therapy.  A lot of physical therapy.

-- Ryan and I went to a Jazz game with dear friends.  The Jazz lost the game, but we had a blast.

-- everyone except Katie participated in the Primary Program.  It was great!

-- even though Lauren dropped out of ballet, we still took the girls to see The Nutcracker.  What a great way to start the holiday season!

-- we celebrated Turkey Day!  We are so thankful for the many blessings we enjoy each day!

There you have it! We had a great Autumn, and we are now geared up for December!  This time of year is so wonderful, isn't it? When we are with family or great friends, we are happy!

And Low-Fat Too!!

We had a winter storm come through tonight, so the family hunkered down and watched the movie Elf to start off the holidays. As the closing credits were scrolling up the screen, Braiden proudly announced,

"That movie was gluten-free!!"

We were all pretty much speechless until an uncontrollable fit of laughter overtook us....

Where did this kid come from??

Trying To Change....

I had an epiphany the other night that I wanted to share.  It is an internal perspective kind of thing and very personal, but I wanted to get my thoughts organized and down, so please bare with me...

It's about my latest shoulder surgery (well, actually, it's about much more than that, as you will soon see).  For those of you who don't know, I had to have a second surgery done on my right shoulder a week and a half ago.  Same shoulder....same surgery as last time.  Fun stuff...

So, here's a quick back story...

By the time Ryan and I went to Paris and Dubai, I could honestly say that my shoulder had healed.  I could do the things I wanted and needed to do, and was so relieved about it.  I felt normal again.  I felt whole again.  I felt like I could take care of my family again.  Life was good.

After our big trip, and after the semester was over for me, I looked at my sorry yard and knew I had a lot of catching up to do.  Very little had been done the previous summer because of my shoulder, so I needed to do two years worth of yardwork that month (at least that's the crazy notion that went through my head).  So, I went gangbusters on my yard.  Pulling out shrubs, weeding, tilling, planting, mowing, and even re-landscaping.  At night, I would come in and feel sore in my shoulder, but nothing too terrible, and by the next day, I would be fine.  That further convinced me that I was well and could continue.

Ummmm, I was wrong.

Towards the end of the summer, I starting thinking ahead to the upcoming school year.  Ryan's work load was becoming increasingly insane with his huge trial coming up, I was planning on finishing up my Associates and the kids were going to be involved in a few activities.  A few....actually like a lot.  The run down was something like this: one mom in College, one kid in Junior High, three kids in Elementary school, PTA, Primary President, ballet, soccer, piano, scouts, Young Women, voice lessons, and finally, theater productions.  The thought of my upcoming schedule literally brought me to an anxious state of mind.  (I'm shaking just typing all of that!) How was I going to be able to juggle everything? I prayed about it and felt strongly that we needed to simplify.  That is a hard thing for me, but, for reasons that I was unaware of at the time, I knew that things needed to become calmer and easier around here. As a family, we decided that I was going to be tutored at home by Denise in Math so I could just test out of it and not go to any classes.  Whew! One stress lightened!  We also decided to pull Lauren out of ballet classes.  This one was so hard for the both of us.  She is a beautiful dancer, and she has always enjoyed it, but we knew it was the right thing to do to "take our family time back". Voice lessons and sports also got placed on the back burner to simmer for a while.  Looking back, it is so interesting to me to see how the Spirit works in our lives to prepare us for things to come.  The trick, of course, is to listen and follow that Spirit, something I definitely need to improve on.

I continued to go crazy with my yard and house, trying to put things in order.  I just had an overwhelming feeling to get organized.  However, throughout the summer, my shoulder would more frequently become sore after hard labor, even though the soreness wouldn't last long.  In a nutshell, I simply continued to overwork my body instead of letting it heal from doing too much, too quickly after surgery. The frequency of the pain starting speeding up, until, by this Fall, I was back to square one: hurting all of the time, and unable to do even simple tasks like wiping off my kitchen counter!! 

Cue the "pity me" music here:  I was SO mad at myself for allowing this to happen again.  So mad at my body for being weak. Mad at everybody and everything.

But, after many Priesthood blessings, prayers, and discussions, I felt at peace with surgery.  I KNEW that it was the only way to get better again.  So, I had it done, it went well, and I'm now in recovery mode.

But, I was still having a hard time dealing with my situation.  I realize people go through far worse, but I was so discouraged about my lack of ability, my lack of usefulness, my lack of good mothering.  I knew I was put on this earth to be, among other things, a wife and a mother, and I felt that my situation was prohibiting those callings.

Wrong again....waaaaay wrong.

Now we come to my epiphany.  One of my sweetest and dearest friends took me to lunch this week, and as I was crying to her about how it feels to not be able to do anything for myself, as well as for my children or husband, she said something that I hope I NEVER forget. 

"I can't be a good mom when I'm in this poor physical condition," I whined to her.  "I can't cook and I can't clean.  It's so frustrating not to be able to do my job as a mom."

Here comes the lightning bolt:

"Jen, what an opportunity you now have to take this time to just hold them, and be with them, and just love them instead of all of that other stuff you can't do that doesn't really matter anyway! Pretty soon they are going to be grown up and gone.  You can never get this time back with them and there is always time for laundry later."

I have thought about that ever since she said it.  She is right, what an opportunity I have....what an opportunity I have already missed!!  I have gone through so much of my life worrying about all of the "mom stuff" that needs to get done.  Stuff that is worthwhile and good, but not essential for happiness in this life.  I tell Ryan all of the time that I'm such a Martha and I desperately long to be a Mary  (Luke 10:38-42).  Maybe this strong sense of "simplifying" coupled with this little trial in my life is helping get a little closer to that goal....if only I let it. 

This past week has been a new beginning for me.  I'm listening more, hugging more, asking more, and complimenting and encouraging more than I've done in a very long time.  I am seeing my precious children in a different way and trying to look for the positive rather than the negative. I am the first to admit that I'm far from perfect and I still see myself slipping into old habits, but I am determined to turn this road bump of mine into a learning and growing experience and hopefully improve myself in the process.

I want to take a moment to thank this wonderful friend of mine, who helped me to truly see what needed to be seen, as well as the DOZENS of others who have literally dropped everything in their busy lives to help me.  I have felt so loved!!  I have always known that service to others is a wonderful blessing and helps me grow, and suddenly now I'm discovering that my love is growing immensely for the wonderful people around me when I watch them serve me.  It has truly been a powerful experience to let go of the control and allow myself to be blessed by the hands of others.  I hope to one day be as Christlike as you all are! You are all an inspiration to me and my family, and my heart is overflowing with love and gratitude!!

Braiden is Eight

This is my oldest son.

I can't believe he just turned eight years old.

It makes me want to smile and cry all at the same time.

He had a great birthday.  The weather was beautiful.  We celebrated in style by eating at The Cracker Barrel (Hey, I gave him the choice of any restaurant in Layton and that's what he wanted!).  After dinner, we opened presents and enjoyed cake and ice cream (I'm getting so lazy in my old age with that pathetic football cake, but he loved it.)

He loved getting this microscope set from us.  He has been playing with it for hours and hours.  He's now asking for a telescope for Christmas. Who knew he would like science so much?

But he was most excited to get a motorized scooter.  Just look at that happy face! Perfect!

Happy Eighth Birthday, Braiden!!!  We love you so much!!

Well, turning eight also means making the choice to be baptized a member of our church.  We talked a lot about this with Braiden and he decided to become a member.  We are proud of the young man he is becoming.  We went to Temple Square and had his baptism pictures taken with his dad.  They turned out so great!!

This one makes me tear up every time I look at it.  I love these two guys more than anything...

Love this little suit that Grandma Janis got for him!! I couldn't ask for better pictures of him!

The big baptism day arrived and Ryan and I took Braiden to a special lunch, just the three of us before the big event.  We were so excited that so many family members came to support us on Braiden's big day, including Grandma Nancy (we were so sad when Grandpa Blair became ill and had to leave....he and Grandma were greatly missed!).  Braiden and I performed a musical number before the baptism (well, in the end only Braiden sang because I blubbered through the whole song!  I'm such a boob!).  I'm so grateful that Ryan holds God's priesthood and was able to perform the ordinance.  We are so proud of you, Braiden and we know that your Heavenly Father is too!!

After the baptism, we went back to our house for dinner.  As usual, it's always a party when you get that many people in our house.  Somehow, the Nerf guns came out and war ensued.  Amanda suffered the most because of her velcro-like sweater. It was hilarious!

I caught this cute moment with Uncle Dave, Cora, and Ethan playing on the tramp.  Ethan is loving the amount of air he's getting!



I love getting family together and the older I get, the more I realize that its one of the only thing that matters.  I love making memories with my family!

As a continuing tradition, I want to include a snapshot of Braiden at age eight.  My, how he's changed from a year ago!

-- Braiden is a good student.  At the first of the year, he informed me that he hates school and the only thing he liked about it was PE.  But, he has since changed his mind.  He LOVES his teacher, Ms. Carmony, and he gets really excited for Thursdays when I come and help in the classroom.  He now actually enjoys doing his homework instead of complaining about it.  He is in the top reading and math groups at school and has discovered a love for science.  It is fun to see him bloom!

-- Braiden is thrilled to be in scouts.  He became a Cub Scout when he turned eight.  He absolutely loves it and can't wait to go every week!  He has already made a bird feeder and learned about Native Americans.

-- Braiden LOVES soccer.  Until now, he hasn't been extremely enthusiastic.  He's enjoyed it, yes, but has never excelled and thrived.  But this year, he's been on fire!! Running up and down the field like a wild child!  Blocking, passing, and even scoring!!!  We have been telling him how proud we are of him for TRYING, because that's what really matters.  It is so fun to watch him enjoy it so much!!

-- Braiden is so tender-hearted.  If something happens that he doesn't like, I have two choices: get frustrated with him and escalate the situation to where no one is happy, or give him a hug and feel his little body melt in my arms.  He loves affection and craves it daily.  If I remember to be patient and loving towards him, I never have any problems with him.  What a sweet boy he is....I hope he always stays that way!

--Braiden refuses to eat school lunch.  He doesn't like anything they serve, even pizza and chicken nuggets.  He faithfully makes his own lunch every morning...the same lunch...peanut butter sandwich (just peanut butter), Cheez-It crackers, fruit cup, and granola bar. every. single. day.

--Braiden's favorite Primary song is "I Love To See The Temple" and we have to sing it every time it's his turn to pick the song before family prayer.

--Braiden's favorite radio song is "I've Got A Feeling" by Black Eyed Peas.  It replaced "Vida la Vida" by Coldplay.  It is so cute to listen to him sing these two songs very loudly!

--Braiden is obsessed with Tony Hawk apparel.  All of his jeans and most of his shirts have to be Tony Hawk, even though I highly doubt he even knows who the guy is!!

I love my little Braiden!!

It's Pretty Much My Favorite Place

Jackson. Glorious Jackson.  Every year in September we head North and I can't tell you how much I love this annual trip. 

Sometimes we get rain, sometimes we get snow, but this year, we got be-you-ti-ful weather. 

And the Fall COLORS!!! 

Usually, people stop their cars and get out to take pictures of wildlife, but this year, they were stopping to snap pictures of the trees!!  Stunning color, my friends! 

I know you are all jealous right now, but come along on our little recap today and all will be well.

The first day, our family split up.  Ryan took the boys floating on the Snake to fish all day.  I wish we had pictures, but I had the camera.  I'm sure it was so cute.  Both boys caught a fish, even though Braiden had to wait almost the entire day to catch one!  He was so patient and SO excited when he finally got one!

Naturally, while the boys fished, the girls shopped!!  We love shopping in Jackson and we enjoyed a yummy lunch with Grandma, Auntie R, and Cora as well.

After shopping, the girls and I went horseback riding in Teton Village.  It was SO fun!!  I haven't been on a horse since...well, it's been a long time. 

Lauren was hilarious mounting up...this was her first time ever. We didn't laugh at her TOO much.

Katie is a more seasoned horseback rider, this being her third time and all.  Way to go, Katie!

We had a BALL!!  My horse's name was Princess, of course!!  How appropriate, right?  Katie rode on Custard and Lauren was on Bear (who was mean....he kicked me!!)

We had a great time and we might make this an annual girl tradition!!

The next day was spent in Yellowstone. We love this park and like to explore new places every year.  Did I already mention the weather was gorgeous?  Well, it was!

We saw a black bear just outside of Moose every day.  I got some great video on my new phone of him climbing a tree, but it was somehow erased!!  Grrrrr, I was mad! So, this is the best picture I got of him with my camera. 

OK, so this is what I meant by spectacular colors!!  Check that out!!  I can't remember when the leaves have been so vibrant! 

We walked around an area we hadn't visited before with hot springs flowing into Yellowstone Lake.  Very cool...I mean hot.

Three of my favorite people by Yellowstone Lake

Kids playing on the beach of Yellowstone Lake, having a ball.

 

Then we went to the canyon to see the falls.  We love it there.

 Waiting and watching for Old Faithful to erupt...how cute is that?

On our way to West Yellowstone, we spotted this moose.  I love how Braiden gave her a little wave.  It made my heart smile.



What a wonderful trip, full of family, fun, and wonderful memories.  I hope this tradition never dies.  In fact, Braiden asked me if we can still go when he is married with kids. 

Yes, Braiden.  I'm planning on it.